Every new mom must be clueless at first. Though she might have prepared herself with lots of theoritrical knowledge of taking care baby, but practicaly it's not as simple as reading a book. She needs support group, a group of (closest) people that always there to support her become a new mom.
I always thought that being a stay at home mom is easy. All you have to do just taking care husband, baby, make some food, and keep the home neat and clean, and you still have lots of time to do whatever you want. Teeeetttt!!! That's just so wrong. I'm not the kind of mom that was featured in Goodhouse Keeping magz who seems to do everything perfectly and always looking good and pretty every day. I'm just ordinary (normal) mom and wife that still need several adjustments with my new tittle.
My house is a mess during weekdays. Laundry bin is full during weekdays. I never have time to shower twice a day during weekdays. Forget about beauty care or make up during weekdays, i don't have time for that stuffs. I look shabby all the time (poor hubby). I sweat (in the high possibility of stink) during the days and nights because of the combination of hot air, stress, and doing housekeeping plus babykeeping stuffs. At the end of the day when hubby came home late night, i was bragging and crying. It made my exhausted hubby upset and led into a cold war that thankfully only lasted less than an hour.
See? My life as a stay at home mom is not as easy as i thought. One day i realized that maybe i had the baby blues syndrome. I feel like i can't be a good mom for Asha. I feel like i'm failed being a wife and a mom. I feel so useless.
It was not easy at all getting through the baby blues syndrome. My husband helped me getting through all that unpleasant feeling. But he doesn't know that what i need the most is support group. Since he spents most of his time at work during weekdays, i always feel lonely and insecure whenever he's not around. Moreover we live in different town from my parent. I feel like i don't have someone to turn to.
Now as i'm writting this story, i enjoying my holiday at my parent house. Then i realized how important their presence for me, as i always take it for granted before. They are my support group. In this house i get my confidence and feel more secure to do my role as a mom for Asha. As a result, Asha is happier and healthier here. She giggles a lot, she's so active, she eats a lot and gain more weight. See? Support group can make a happy and more stable mom that will bring huge positive effect to the baby.
When it's time for me to go home, i will keep this in mind. No matter how far we're appart, i will always have my support group. My husband, family, and friends.